第22章 赞美的力量（第3页）
Illbethelookedinthemirrorandsaid：
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Itisabeautifulheadofhair。
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Itoldthisstoryonceinublicandamanaskedmeafterwards：
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Whatdidyouwanttogetoutofhim？
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WhatwasItryingtogetoutofhim！
WhatwasItryingtogetoutofhim！
Ifwearesocontemtiblyselfishthatwecantradiatealittlehainessandassonabitofhonestareciationwithouttryingtogetsomethingoutoftheotherersoninreturn—ifoursoulsarenobiggerthansourcrabales，weshallmeetwiththefailurewesorichlydeserve。
Ohyes，Ididwantsomethingoutofthatcha。
Iwantedsomethingriceless。
AndIgotit。
IgotthefeelingthatIhaddonesomethingforhimwithouthisbeingabletodoanythingwhateverinreturnforme。
Thatisafeelingthatflowsandsingsinyourmemorylongaftertheincidentisast。
Thereisoneall-imortantlawofhumanconduct。
Ifweobeythatlaw，weshallalmostnevergetintotrouble。
Infact，thatlaw，ifobeyed，willbringuscountlessfriendsandconstanthainess。
Buttheveryinstantwebreakthelaw，weshallgetintoendlesstrouble。
Thelawisthis：Alwaysmaketheotherersonfeelimortant。
JohnDewey，aswehavealreadynoted，saidthatthedesiretobeimortantisthedeeesturgeinhumannature；andWilliamJamessaid：
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Thedeeestrincileinhumannatureisthecravingtobeareciated。
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AsIhavealreadyointedout，itisthisurgethatdifferentiatesusfromtheanimals。
Itisthisurgethathasbeenresonsibleforcivilizationitself。
Philosohershavebeenseculatingontherulesofhumanrelationshisforthousandsofyears，andoutofallthatseculation，therehasevolvedonlyoneimortantrecet。
Itisnotnew。
Itisasoldashistory。
ZoroastertaughtittohisfollowersinPersiatwenty-fivehundredyearsago。
ConfuciusreacheditinChinatwenty-fourcenturiesago：
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Dountoothersasyouwouldhaveothersdountoyou。
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